10 Communication Skills That Will Make You Rich!

This classic right here, Think and Grow Rich, has changed millions of lives by teaching people how to think differently.

>> You've heard of the book Think and Grow Rich.

>> Think and Grow Rich.

>> But what if I told you there's another way to grow rich, not just with your thoughts, but with your words. Today,

I'm introducing to you speak and grow rich. This is my takes on timeless

rich. This is my takes on timeless principles, but through the lens of communication. I've used these exact

communication. I've used these exact techniques to build a global speaking career. I've helped millions of people

career. I've helped millions of people unlock their potential through improving their communication. And today, I'm

their communication. And today, I'm going to give you the blueprint. We'll

break down the 10 core lessons that if you apply one step at a time, it's going to help you grow rich, not just financially, but through the abundance of career opportunities, deeper

relationships, and personal fulfillment.

And lots of chicks. Not the kind you're thinking. I recently built a chicken

thinking. I recently built a chicken coop and now have chickens. I'm

obsessed. Starting with chapter 1. Have

you ever walked out of a conversation thinking to yourself, "What just happened? You said a bunch of things.

happened? You said a bunch of things.

They said a bunch of things." And then somehow nothing moved. This is what happens when we speak without clarity.

At the core of what Napoleon teaches is the importance of purpose. And in the context of communication, it means learning to speak with clear intent.

Just like Napoleon teaches that success starts with a clear goal, great communication starts with clear intention. It's knowing exactly what's

intention. It's knowing exactly what's the point of the conversation I'm about to have and knowing what you want your words to do. Is your goal simply to connect with the other person. Is it to

persuade them to buy Battlefield 6 so you can finally complete your squad of four? Or is it to inspire them to hit

four? Or is it to inspire them to hit the gym? In every interaction you have,

the gym? In every interaction you have, there's an underlying intent. If you

don't know the exact outcome you want from the conversation, how will you even know what to say? This is why most people end up rambling. Start asking

yourself this question before any meeting or any conversation. What do I want this person to think, feel, and do?

Once you've built up this simple habit, you'll notice your communication being sharper. You'll speak with more clarity

sharper. You'll speak with more clarity and more confidence and more impact. But

speaking with clear intent isn't enough because you can have two people say the exact same thing. The first person no one really listens to, but the second person everyone's hanging on to every

single word. See if you can notice the

single word. See if you can notice the difference. So why are you the perfect

difference. So why are you the perfect person for this role?

>> Um I I don't believe I'm just the perfect person, you know, um for this role. I I believe um I was born for it.

role. I I believe um I was born for it.

>> So why are you the perfect person for this role? Look, I I don't just believe

this role? Look, I I don't just believe that I'm the perfect person for the role. I believe that I was born for this

role. I believe that I was born for this role. No, seriously. Seriously, I was

role. No, seriously. Seriously, I was holding a sign, so it's true. I was I was important for the role. Okay. Okay.

I know I was being a little bit dramatic. But hopefully you can see

dramatic. But hopefully you can see where I'm going with this. Person number

two spoke with emotion. Person number

one sounded like a robot. You see, in Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon talks about the importance of desire being the fuel behind every success. Well, in the

world of communication, desire shows up with you speaking with emotion.

And no, this doesn't mean you need to be loud or overly animated. I'm talking

about speaking with conviction and bringing the feeling into your words.

There's a brilliant quote by Maya Angelo who says, "I've learned that people will forget what you've said. People will

forget what you've done, but they'll never forget how you made them feel." I

want you to think about someone in your life who communicates with emotion.

Someone that you feel excited every time they're around. Take a moment and really

they're around. Take a moment and really think of that person. Think of them. Get

someone in your mind. Aren't they way more memorable when they speak as compared to someone who speaks with no emotion? Don't they just feel easier to

emotion? Don't they just feel easier to connect with? And don't they feel more

connect with? And don't they feel more human? It's because when they feel their

human? It's because when they feel their words, so do you. So, if you want to be richer when it comes to influence, trust, and building deeper relationships, then you need to inject

more emotion into your words. And the

most practical way to do this is by using your facial expressions. If you're

talking about something exciting, make your face happy. If you're sharing a story about that time you did something dangerous, express some fear in your face. Your face is the remote control

face. Your face is the remote control that allows you to inject emotion into your voice.

Damn, that's actually a really good quote. I wonder who said this. No,

quote. I wonder who said this. No,

seriously. I mean, I need to know who came up with this quote because it's fantastic. Let's have a quick search

fantastic. Let's have a quick search here.

Oh, it's uh originally said by a gentleman named Vin Jang. What a bloody brilliant guy that man is, huh? Don't

you think so? Handsome chap. All right,

moving on to chapter three. One of the most magnetic qualities a person can have isn't what they say, it's how they carry themselves when they say it.

Napoleon Hill's third principle is faith. Believe in your vision, your

faith. Believe in your vision, your words, and your mission. And in the world of communication, this translates to speaking with confidence.

And I'll keep this lesson short and sweet because I've made a whole video about this on my channel already, and I'll link it right over there. Click it,

bookmark it, save it, watch it later.

Confidence isn't something you wait to feel. It's something you choose to show.

feel. It's something you choose to show.

When you look more confident and you sound more confident, it tricks your brain into thinking, "I am more confident." So, how do you look and

confident." So, how do you look and sound more confident? The first thing is improve your posture. Stand tall with your shoulders down and back. Strong eye

contact. Looking down is a sign of a lack of confidence. Make more eye contact more often with the people you're speaking to. Use bigger hand gestures. Don't act small. Taking up

gestures. Don't act small. Taking up

more space signals comfort and authority. Increase your pitch variety.

authority. Increase your pitch variety.

Don't just stick to one pitch. Vary it.

And lastly, increase your volume. And

and and more volume because it's powerful. And and I forgot to mention,

powerful. And and I forgot to mention, did you uh did you check out this jawline, man? Yeah, that's what I'm

jawline, man? Yeah, that's what I'm talking about. Yeah.

talking about. Yeah.

Just be careful not to push it too far.

Or you saw what happened, right? Do that

enough times and your inner confidence will catch up. This is what earns you promotions and buy in and deeper respect. But even confidence needs

respect. But even confidence needs consistency. So let's talk about what

consistency. So let's talk about what makes your message stick. Have you ever heard someone say something so often it becomes a part of how you remember them?

That's not an accident. That's what

Napoleon calls auto suggestion. In the

word of communication, it means repetition.

I've been posting content about communication skills now for over 4 years. And if you've ever come across

years. And if you've ever come across any of my videos online, whether it be through Instagram, Tik Tok, or YouTube, where you are right now, you will notice that I don't always share content and lessons that are new. I share the same

foundational principles of communication. And people who are

communication. And people who are worldclass understand this. They

understand why it's important. The best

in the world don't fear repetition. I

used to worry about sounding repetitive until I learned that repetition is what leads to mastery. For me, the more I teach the same thing again and again,

the better I get at it. And for you, the more you hear the same thing over and over, the more it sticks in your brain, which then leads to change and transformation in your life. If you want

to be known for something, you have to say it clearly and you have to say it often. So make the decision now and

often. So make the decision now and decide what you want to be remembered for. And then start embedding that

for. And then start embedding that message in your meetings, in your content, in your conversations. The more

consistent you are, the more your voice starts to work for you, even when you're not in the room.

>> Peter, edit better, faster. Now, this next lesson is hands down one of the most powerful tools you can learn. So

powerful in fact that I spent a full day in my workshops just teaching this specific skill. In think and grow rich,

specific skill. In think and grow rich, Napoleon talks about the concept of imagination and how every achievement begins as an idea developed through imaginative thinking. In the world of

imaginative thinking. In the world of communication, this is where storytelling steps in. When you

storytell, you activate people's imagination and you help them visualize the point and lesson, not just understand it. Most people don't tell

understand it. Most people don't tell stories. They report facts and data.

stories. They report facts and data.

Look, instead of telling you the difference, I'll show you the difference.

>> Hey, Vin, how was your trip to Malaysia?

>> Yeah, I ate lots of good food. I

attended my brother-in-law's wedding. We

did some dancing and had a really good time. I got to take my son to the zoo.

time. I got to take my son to the zoo.

And the weather felt a little bit muggy, but overall had a good experience.

>> He How was your trip to Malaysia? Oh,

this this trip to Malaysia was really really special. I mean, first of all,

really special. I mean, first of all, the food was unreal. So many flavors I've never tasted before. We even had cheese crab. I know. I know. I can see

cheese crab. I know. I know. I can see it in your face already, but it works.

Trust me. And the most beautiful part of the trip was I got to attend my brother-in-law's wedding. And it was

brother-in-law's wedding. And it was beautiful because we got to shower him with love and abundance. You know, a lot of people don't know this about my brother-in-law, but with my brother-in-law, between him and my wife,

they had to make a really hard decision when they were young. Because my

father-in-law only had enough money to send one child overseas, one child to university. And her brother without

university. And her brother without hesitation said, "Hey sis, you go.

You're smarter than me. I'll stay back and look after mom and dad." And I get emotional just thinking about that kind of sacrifice because that quiet act of love that he showed his sister changed

the entire course of her life and mine.

I would have never met my wife if it wasn't for the sacrifice that he made.

So being there watching him walk down the aisle surrounded by family and loved ones, I felt like life had come full circle. We finally got the chance to

circle. We finally got the chance to give back a little to someone who gave us so much. Do you notice the difference? The first one, I'm just

difference? The first one, I'm just reporting the story, listing off facts about what happened. And the second one, I'm reliving the story. I'm helping you imagine what happened, and I'm sharing the meaning behind it. Now, how does

this make you rich? Well, it makes you rich in relationships because you're able to form deeper connections filled with meaning. And these connections

with meaning. And these connections extend beyond your personal life into your professional life, which brings influence, abundance, and career growth, which ultimately means you also make

more money. And if you want to dive

more money. And if you want to dive deeper into storytelling, I made a 19minute video where I coach my students live and you can see transformations happen in the moment. Click that video

over there. Go check that out. Chapter

over there. Go check that out. Chapter

six. One of the biggest reasons people struggle to communicate under pressure.

Whether it's answering a tough question on the spot or leading a meeting or sometimes even giving critical feedback, it's because their thoughts are messy.

Not because they don't know what to say, but because they don't know how to say it and how to sequence it. Napoleon Hill

calls this organized planning. Turning

desire into action and in communication.

This shows up as turning your thoughts into words through structure.

The best speakers think in frameworks.

That's why even under pressure, they stay sharp. And if you don't have

stay sharp. And if you don't have structure, you're just rambling with a passion. Let me share with you one of my

passion. Let me share with you one of my favorite frameworks to help you control the crazy and distill meaningful pieces of communication. This framework I'm

of communication. This framework I'm about to share with you is called STAR.

And STAR stands for situation, task, action, result. It's one of the simplest

action, result. It's one of the simplest and most powerful structures for clear communication. Let me show you how it

communication. Let me show you how it works with a real example. Peter,

this is to exert dominance over you. We

meant to put one long form video out per week and a few weeks ago we were missing a long form. Why were we missing a long form from a few weeks ago, Peter? What

the hell's going on?

>> Okay. Yes. So during that week, we planned to upload that storytelling video on Friday, but then you had to fly to Malaysia for your brother-in-law's wedding. My job was to keep production

wedding. My job was to keep production on track and make sure that the videos still went out on time. I tried to use older footage to fill in the gaps, but without you here to film the main parts, it just didn't feel right. So, we

decided to delay posting something right now below our usual standard. We missed

that upload, but we've now adjusted the schedule to film two videos this week and create a twoe buffer so travel or emergencies don't cause delays again.

>> Makes sense. I was actually angry that you didn't post it, but I'm so glad you didn't because it would have been below our usual standard. Well done, mate. And

that's it. That's Star. Simple,

structured, powerful. Here's the secret.

Most people ramble because they're thinking while they're speaking. Star

forces you to think before you speak. To

sharpen your thoughts and ideas so it actually lands. So, the next time

actually lands. So, the next time someone asks you a big question, don't just talk, star it, framework it. If you

love this framework, there are even more amazing frameworks like Prep, 321, and PAR. I don't have time to go through

PAR. I don't have time to go through these frameworks right now, but I have recorded a free 2-hour training teaching you exactly step by step how to implement these frameworks in your conversations at work. To access the

free training, just click the link in the description or you can scan the QR code if you're watching from your lounge room and then we'll deep dive and nerd out on the frameworks together. Now,

when you speak with structure, you become a more effective communicator. No

words go to waste and every single sentence is intentional. Start

practicing right now with the STAR framework and the new ones you'll learn together on the training and transform how others perceive you. Okay? If you've

made it this far into the video, you're already ahead of most people. Now, stick

with me here because the last three lessons bring everything you've learned so far together. This next one is something I wish I knew in my early 20s because for the first few years of my

journey, I honestly thought I had to figure it all out on my own. But then I came across this idea in Think and Grow Rich, the mastermind group. This changed

everything for me. Napoleon says, "If you want to accelerate your success, surround yourself with people who are already on the path you want to be on."

And in the world of communication, this translates to surrounding yourself with great communicators.

I remember signing up to theater classes, singing lessons, improv, you name it, I've done it. The more I surrounded myself with incredible storytellers and speakers, my voice, my

identity started changing, too. I didn't

even realize it was happening, but it was happening slowly each and every day.

I just started absorbing the way that other people would use their voice, and I crafted their sentences and how they handled tough questions into the way I would communicate. Now, you don't have

would communicate. Now, you don't have to do exactly what I did, but here's what I would recommend. If you want to grow fast, find three to five people whose communication style you really

admire. It could be a speaker. It could

admire. It could be a speaker. It could

be a colleague. It could be someone online making YouTube videos. Study

them. Try on their behaviors like you would try on outfits. Copy their

posture. Copy their vocal tone, their hand gestures. And it's going to feel

hand gestures. And it's going to feel weird at first, but that's how you develop your range and style. And while

you're trying on these new ways of communicating, keep this in mind. When

people are doing it for the first time, it feels weird. And then when it feels weird, don't label it as being fake and phony. Because the moment you label it

phony. Because the moment you label it as being fake and phony, you'll stop the exploration process. Reframe that

exploration process. Reframe that thinking to that weird thing you feel, reframe it to, oh, it's just unfamiliar, that's all. And when you reframe it to

that's all. And when you reframe it to unfamiliar, do you know what that does?

It helps you continue to explore your communication skills, explore all the different outfits, all the different gestures, all the different vocal tones.

And the best way to practice these new behaviors that you observe from all these great communicators is while you're driving to and from work, when you're at the checkout line in the grocery store, test it out on the

checkout clerk. This is how you practice

checkout clerk. This is how you practice these new behaviors to see if they're right for you in low-risk environments until you iron out all the kinks and

help the unfamiliar become more familiar. If you don't actually practice

familiar. If you don't actually practice and apply the knowledge you acquire, nothing changes. When you consciously

nothing changes. When you consciously decide to mimic and learn from the best, you shortcut the learning journey. Trust

me, this will save you years of trial and error. Otherwise, most people

and error. Otherwise, most people default to unconsciously copying anyone and everyone in their environment, even the bad communicators. I love this quote that feels quite fitting from Zig

Ziggler, who says, "Don't become a wandering generality. Become a

wandering generality. Become a meaningful specific." Let that sink in.

meaningful specific." Let that sink in.

Now, you've got the people, you've got the structure, you've got the stories, but all of this is still theory until you do the next thing. Chapter eight.

This is where most people fall off because this is the part where you actually have to do the work. Not just

read the book, not just watch the video.

You need to speak out loud over and over and over again. In Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon calls this persistence. And in

the world of communication, I call it reps.

The only way to get better at speaking is to speak. You can't mindet your way into being a better communicator. You

have to practice. You have to make videos and cringe at them. You have to speak in meetings and trip over your words. And you just have to keep showing

words. And you just have to keep showing up. Every conversation you have is a

up. Every conversation you have is a rep. Every voice memo you send, every

rep. Every voice memo you send, every presentation, every story you tell at dinner, these are all reps. So don't

wait until someone invites you to speak at their wedding for you to start practicing your communication skills.

You don't need a stage to get started.

Start by sending voice notes to your friends. Start with a daily 30-second

friends. Start with a daily 30-second practice video. Start talking to

practice video. Start talking to yourself by yourself in the car. Don't

wait for the perfect moment because it won't come. You won't see improvement

won't come. You won't see improvement between rep one and rep two. But you'll

see improvement when you compare rep one to rep 30. That's where you'll see transformation. Slow progress is

transformation. Slow progress is invisible until it starts to compound.

The more reps you get, the more prepared you'll be. when the opportunity actually

you'll be. when the opportunity actually arrives. It's why Navy Seals say, "You

arrives. It's why Navy Seals say, "You don't rise to the occasion, you sink to the level of training and preparation."

And that preparation, that's what makes you rich when it matters the most.

Chapter nine. Have you ever tried pitching an idea and felt like you completely missed the mark? You had the perfect words. You maybe even had

perfect words. You maybe even had perfect delivery and perfect structure and told stories, but it felt like no one was listening or even cared. Why

does this happen? Well, it's because you weren't tuned into the room. In Think

and Grow Rich, Napoleon describes this as the brain having a transmitter and a receiver, constantly sending and receiving signals. And in the world of

receiving signals. And in the world of communication, this means learning to read the room.

For example, I want you to imagine this scenario that we totally didn't make up for the purpose of this video. Check

this out.

>> Someone ran over him this morning. I'm

so sorry about Roffus, man. Dude, you

gave him the best life. Bro, this

freaking heartbreaking.

>> All right, big dog is here.

So sorry I'm late, guys. I've been

chasing my tail all morning and and traffic was so rough. And you know what's even more crazy? While I was driving, something darted across the car and hit my car and made me nearly spill

my coffee. Da

my coffee. Da da da da da.

>> All right, guys. I won't let the rough morning get to me. Let's start the day how we normally do. Pause in.

Yeah, don't do this. Instead, the wisdom here is to meet people where they are, then slowly take them to where you want to go. Now, watch what happens when I

to go. Now, watch what happens when I become aware of his energy, and I'm able to read the room, meet him where he is, and then take him to where I want to go.

Hey morning.

What's What's going on, guys?

>> My my dog just passed away.

>> Oh, man. I'm so sorry, brother. I know

what it feels like to lose a pet. You

know, they're for like family. Eh, look,

why don't we all just take 5 minutes and uh take a breather, maybe you share some of your favorite memories of him, eh?

>> Yeah, I'd love that.

>> Wasn't that so much better? By doing

this again, meeting them where they are, then taking them to where you want to go, you are now able to make them feel seen, feel heard, and feel understood.

Because when you're able to do this in conversation, your communication becomes magnetic regardless of the scenario or situation. Chapter 10. Okay, now you're

situation. Chapter 10. Okay, now you're at the top of the staircase. The final

lesson. Have you ever watched someone speak and thought to yourself, "Damn it, how are they doing that without even thinking? They're not stuttering.

thinking? They're not stuttering.

They're not pausing every two seconds.

They're not being awkward with their gestures. Their ideas and their body

gestures. Their ideas and their body language just seems to flow. That's what

Napoleon Hill calls the six sense, your instinct, the gut feeling, the hunch.

And in the world of communication, we call it unconscious competence. To talk

about this, we need to learn about the four stages of learning. Stage number

one, it's called unconscious incompetence. You don't know what you

incompetence. You don't know what you don't know.

Right? Peter just threw a ball at me. I

completely missed it. I didn't even really react. And in this example, I

really react. And in this example, I didn't even know that I suck at catching. You don't know what you don't

catching. You don't know what you don't know. Stage two, conscious incompetence.

know. Stage two, conscious incompetence.

Now you know what you don't know. Peter

just threw the ball at me and I went to catch it. Now unfortunately I'm aware

catch it. Now unfortunately I'm aware that I suck. I know that I suck. But as

I reflect on this journey in stage two of conscious incompetence, I'm going to start to understand, oh, I should actually look at Peter as he's throwing the ball to me. I'm going to be able to predict where the ball is going to go.

I'm going to be able to place my hand where the ball is. Then I'm going to be able to catch it. So this is that first stage of learning where you start to feel the cognitive

difficulty of acquiring a new skill.

Stage three of learning, conscious competence.

Oh, got it. This is when you finally understand everything to do with catching, but you still have to think about it. And it stills it still feels

about it. And it stills it still feels really clunky while you're doing it, but you're doing it. You're doing it. You're

on your way. You're getting better.

Which now brings us to the final stage of learning. Stage number four,

of learning. Stage number four, unconscious competence. This is when you

unconscious competence. This is when you can automatically just catch the ball.

This is mastery in action. This is when you've mastered the skill you've been practicing. And with this example of the

practicing. And with this example of the tennis ball and catching, this also happens with your communication skills.

Think about it. You'll get to a point on your communication journey where your tools, your frameworks, your delivery, your emotional range, your ability to storytell, it all just clicks into

place. And instead of you trying to

place. And instead of you trying to remember everything, you just trust yourself. But this doesn't happen

yourself. But this doesn't happen immediately. This only happens after

immediately. This only happens after hours and hours of deliberate practice, reflection, feedback, and course correction. If you're in this phase

correction. If you're in this phase right now where everything feels clunky and you're overthinking every pause, every gesture, and every single word, just know this. You're most likely in

stage two or stage three of learning, which means you're right where you need to be. you are on the path towards

to be. you are on the path towards mastery because if you just keep showing up the unfamiliar gradually becomes familiar and then one day it becomes automatic. I want you to think about

automatic. I want you to think about this. It's like driving. At first when

this. It's like driving. At first when you you start the driving journey you are hyper aware of every single little thing. The mirror, the pedals, the

thing. The mirror, the pedals, the traffic lights, the blinker. But

eventually you stop thinking about how to drive and you just think grocery store and then your skills and abilities take you to the grocery store. It takes

you there. Then what happens when your communication too becomes masterful?

You'll get to a point where you don't have to overthink any of the gestures, the frameworks, the storytelling, the questions. You just think to yourself, I

questions. You just think to yourself, I want to have a deeper conversation. I

need to have a difficult conversation with the team member. And once again, your skills and abilities will take you there naturally and effortlessly. And

that's the moment you realize you've stopped performing. Things only feel

stopped performing. Things only feel like you're performing when you're in stage two and stage three of learning.

Once you hit stage four, now you're just being. And that's where the real

being. And that's where the real richness lies. It's in you being fully

richness lies. It's in you being fully present, you being fully you, and you having the skill to express you. If you

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