You Don’t Actually Fear Failure—You Fear Being Seen Trying

Let's get something straight. You don't

fear failure. Not really. Because if

failure was truly the thing holding you back, you'd be out here trying, failing, adjusting, and trying again. You'd be

treating failure like data, like feedback, like part of the process. But

that's not what's stopping you. What's

stopping you is the fear of being seen in the middle. The fear of looking like a beginner. The fear of being judged

a beginner. The fear of being judged before you get good. the fear of people watching you struggle, fumble, get it wrong. You're not afraid of failing in

wrong. You're not afraid of failing in private, you're afraid of failing in public. Because deep down, you can live

public. Because deep down, you can live with the setbacks. What you can't live with is other people watching you stumble and deciding that you're not enough. And that is the real prison, my

enough. And that is the real prison, my love. Somewhere along the way, you

love. Somewhere along the way, you learned that being bad at something means you shouldn't do it. That

struggling means you're not naturally gifted. that if you don't get it right

gifted. that if you don't get it right the first time, you're probably not meant for it. Maybe you learned this in school where making mistakes felt like public humiliation. Maybe you learned

public humiliation. Maybe you learned this in childhood where being imperfect got you shamed. Maybe you learned this through rejection, through judgment, through years of feeling like you had to

prove yourself to be taken seriously. So

now you avoid the process entirely. You

don't chase the things you want because trying means risking visibility and you don't want to be seen trying. Trying

means you're in progress. Trying means

that you don't have it figured out yet.

Trying means you're still vulnerable to failure, to criticism, to looking like you don't belong. So instead of trying, you

belong. So instead of trying, you hesitate. You plan, overanalyze,

hesitate. You plan, overanalyze, strategize, dream about it, fantasize about it, talk about it, but you don't do it. Because as long as it stays in

do it. Because as long as it stays in your head, it's still perfect. It's

still untouchable. But the second you bring it into the world, it's open for judgment. And that terrifies you more

judgment. And that terrifies you more than failure ever could. It's hard to admit, but if you

could. It's hard to admit, but if you deep it, you'll realize that there is a part of you that would rather stay invisible than look imperfect, that look foolish or cringe. Think about it. The

people you admire, the ones who seem fearless, the ones who actually go after what they want, do you think they were great from the start? No. They had a

first attempt, a first video, a first business, a first draft, a first project that was most likely terrible. In fact,

I can bet my left arm that it was terrible. But they kept

terrible. But they kept going because the difference between them and the people still waiting to start is that they are willing to be seen

struggling. They are willing to be seen

struggling. They are willing to be seen trying. They are willing to be

trying. They are willing to be cringeworthy.

They are willing to be to to post something that wasn't perfect. They were

willing to show up while they were still learning. And that's the part we don't

learning. And that's the part we don't like talking about. You want the outcome, but you don't want the process.

You want to be great, but you don't want to be a beginner. You want the respect, the recognition, the results, but you don't want to earn them in front of people who might judge you. So, you stay

stuck. Not because you don't have

stuck. Not because you don't have potential, not because you're not capable, but because you don't want to be seen on the way there. And that my friend that is the real failure. Let me

ask you something. What if you allowed yourself to be seen in the middle of the mess of the struggle? What would happen if you stopped hiding? Like for real? If

you allowed yourself to be seen while you were still figuring things out? If

you let yourself be bad at something before you got good? If you stopped treating imperfection as evidence that you should quit. Because let's be real, every expert was once a beginner. Every

pro was once an amateur. Everyone you

admire was once where you are right now.

They might have been a bit afraid of failure, but they were more terrified of never trying. And that's the only thing

never trying. And that's the only thing you should be afraid of, too. At the end of the day, what are you

too. At the end of the day, what are you really protecting? Tell me. Because the

really protecting? Tell me. Because the

thing you're protecting by not trying, it's not your potential. It's not your failure. It's not your success. It's

failure. It's not your success. It's

your ego. The part of you that doesn't want to be laughed at. The part of you that doesn't want to be underestimated.

The part of you that would rather stay invisible than risk looking inexperienced or risk looking like you're dull and useless and not

intelligent. I genuinely understand. I

intelligent. I genuinely understand. I

swear I do. But hear me when I say this.

Protecting your ego is costing you your life. Because while you're out here

life. Because while you're out here avoiding embarrassment, avoiding being judged, avoiding that awkward in between phase, your life is passing you

by. And the worst part is no one is

by. And the worst part is no one is actually watching as closely as you think they are. Everyone is too busy worrying about their own lives to dissect your failures. Everyone is too caught up in their own insecurities to

keep track of your missteps. Have you

seen the price of egg outside? Who has

time for you?

And the few people who judge you, they are the ones who have never tried in the first place. So ask you again, will you spend

place. So ask you again, will you spend your life avoiding judgment or will you spend it actually living trying? Because

the life you want, the one you keep postponing, the one you keep secretly dreaming about but never fully chase, it's waiting for you to do something

about it, to claim it. Not when you're perfect, not when you're ready, not when you're guaranteed success, but the moment you decide that being seen trying

is a price you are willing to pay. I

don't know about you, but I refuse to let my own hesitation be the reason I don't become everything I'm capable of.

No. So, what's it going to be? As always, it's been an absolute

be? As always, it's been an absolute pleasure. My name is Pearl and I'll see

pleasure. My name is Pearl and I'll see you in the next video.

[Laughter]